Raising a child and doing a good job along the way has to be one of the toughest jobs in the world. A good parent teaches their child to be loving, respectful, responsible, thoughtful, emphatic, self-sufficient and kind – to name just a few desirable qualities. Additionally, for someone to be considered a good parent, they need to be extremely mindful and present at all times. We can always try to learn and be better parents. So, if you want to improve your parenting skills, you should listen to what your child has to say – really listen. You need to show unconditional love to your child and model its beahviour by setting an example. To strengthen your bond, you should engage in some activities together and you should always be truthful to what you say, otherwise, you’ll lose their respect. Moreover, try concentrating on positive things and remember to let your child express himself – it will help create a unique and complete personality. Read more on the topic of how to be a better parent.
1. Listen to what your child has to say
Parents usually don’t really listen to what their child has to say, even though children tend to be quite bright and say some deeply profound things as well observe keenly and make smart conclusions. However, they also tend to speak a lot, and not many things they say make sense or matter. Regardless of that, when we as parents listen, children feel valued and grow up knowing that they matter. Children are very curious, funny, interesting and they consider you, their parent, to be their hero. That’s why it means a lot to them when you listen and give them some real feedback. One of the greatest gifts you can offer to your child is the gift of listening as in that way they get a new perspective on things and the way of life. Try not to multitask while you’re listening to your child, as in that way you can’t fully focus on what they have to say.
2. Show love to your child
Showing unconditional love to your child is quintessential both during some good and not-so-good times. We all make mistakes and we learn from them. It’s important to make your child feel loved even when they have done something wrong. They need to understand that what they did was wrong, but that you still love them. This kind of behaviour helps create a healthy person and a loving child-parent bond. In that way, they will feel that they can mess up sometimes and that it’s normal. Feeling unconditional love at all times makes the child feel that they can come to you with any kind of problem and even though they know they might upset you, they will still be aware of the fact that you do love them, no matter what. Children also need to feel loved by their caregivers in a daycare centre, so you should focus on finding such a nursery. If you’re not sure how to search for such a daycare, type in Google ‘childcare centre near me’ and read the reviews people have posted. Use the reviews to filter through the results and make a good choice.
3. Model your child’s behaviour by setting an example
Children are like sponges – they absorb everything they see and hear. So, you need to be very mindful when it comes to your behaviour. Children watch your every move and listen closely to everything you say, even when you think that they are playing in the other room and not listening. So, whatever you want to teach your child, you should set an example. For instance, if you want to teach your child to eat healthy foods, you should eat healthy foods yourself. If you don’t want them to pick up bad habits such as smoking or drinking alcohol, you shouldn’t do it either. If you want them to be active and engage in sports activities, you should show them with your own example. To promote peaceful and not violent behaviour, you should act calmly and rationally. And if you wish to raise a trustworthy child, keep your word and the promises you make.
4. Engage in some activities together
As we all know, life tends to be kind of hectic, and we sometimes get lost in all the hustle and bustle of daily obligations, running errands and going to appointments that we forget to spend some quality time with our children. Having your child watch TV or scroll the phone while you’re doing some work is ok sometimes, but if it happens too often, it can create a gap between you and your child. You should try to devote at least a little of your time to your child every day. You can just talk about things, learn about their day, or perhaps if there is more time on your hands, engage in some activities together. This will strengthen your bond with your child. Also, what you can do is have them help you around the house with some simple chores and teach them some values in that way. They will feel good about themselves as they will feel that they’re needed.
5. Be truthful in what you say
By following through, you build trust with your child. And by doing that, your children will believe that you will actually do what you say you will. They are very perceptive – so, if you always try to get out of doing things, children will eventually stop believing you. Even a young child as a four-year-old can easily see through you if you keep breaking your promises and do what you said you weren’t going to do in the first place. So, if you do what you said you were going to do, you will end up raising a responsible child and to do that you need to be kind, concise and clear. Your child needs to know that you are serious. If you set a condition that your child can go to or have a sleepover only if they do their homework, then you better follow through and only allow it as promised.
6. Concentrate on positive things
When it comes to children, they often want to be in the centre of attention or to have their parents pay attention to them. And since most parents don’t pay so much attention to their children when they are behaving well, children feel that they need to do something bad in order for their parents to notice them. In order to prevent this bias from happening, you should acknowledge when your child is behaving nicely as well. Observe your child and notice some positive things about them. Try to minimize your criticism and point out the good things. This is especially crucial for children aged from 0 to 5.
7. Let your child express itself
Sometimes it’s hard for parents to accept that their children don’t share their interests and passions. That’s why many parents force their children to attend certain sports or extracurricular activities that they enjoy and that perhaps they would have liked to be good at. Instead, you should observe your child and figure out together with them what their likes and interests are. You should be there to support your child and help them find their path in life.
We as parents also make mistakes and wrong calls sometimes, but the important thing is to learn something from those mistakes and to try to be a better parent with every new challenge.